How many times have you found yourself disappointed with someone in you life? Disappointed because someone said s/he would do something for you and s/he didn't. Disappointed because someone said s/he'd be there for you and that didn't happen. Disappointed because you believed that someone would actually do for his/herself what was promised and nothing was done.
Perhaps you've experienced disappointment in others more times than you care to think about. Well, I'm about to challenge you on the reality of disappointments.
What if I said, the disappointment has nothing to do with the other person and everything to do with you? Maybe you're searching for the unsubscribe button right now or maybe you're intrigued.
The fact is, people can only do what they can do. And even when their intention is to follow through with what they say, they still only do what they do. They either do what they say or they don't. End of story.
Therefore, it's up to us, after just one time of being disappointed by someone, to consider that their word may not be as reliable as we had hoped. And, that they're really not willing to behave any differently for the time being.
People will often reveal their behaviors and patterns very quickly, and it's us who aren't always willing to see what is being shown right from the start. As we continue to put our faith and trust in someone who is not holding his/her own, then the real disappointment rests on our shoulders. We disappoint ourselves when we keep expecting someone to do something different than what s/he is doing. So in truth, we are disappointed with ourselves. Not the other person. They haven't done anything we didn't already know about, we just keep pretending like we don't already know or conveniently keep forgetting.
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