Forgiving First

When you've had a fight with someone, do you ever find yourself experiencing an internal struggle that won't allow you to be the first one to say I'm sorry? C'mon now. Be honest here. I know I've been there and I'd hate to think I'm the only one!

Well, I'd like you to consider the self-empowerment that can come from being willing to take the stand of forgiving first even when you are so hurt and feel so wronged, that it's not a possibility in your mind. Especially when it's a situation that's been going on for years. Now with that said, I do realize, the longer it's been going on, the harder it is to move in a forgiving direction. The only thing we may expect and want from an extremely painful event, is an apology from the person who hurt us before we'll ever consider uttering the words, "I forgive you." and mean it.

So here's a question that just might enlighten you to a new possibility. What if the person who hurt you deeply, was so angry at him/herself and so embarrased and ashamed that he/she is finding it impossible to come forward and apologize? And what if all they want most of all, is to hear you say first, "I forgive you." so they can then open their heart and soul in step with the magnificent act of courage you just displayed.

Just a thought.