Years ago, a mentor of mine asked me about the ways I don't love myself. The question caught me off guard because I believed that I really did love myself. However, when she brought a few things to my attention that we were working on, such as not allowing myself to play until all my work was done (there was always work to be done) or not exercising to keep my body strong, I understood her point.
I made a list of all the ways I didn't love myself and came up with twelve items. I was absolutely shocked! Once I saw, in black and white, how I wasn't loving myself, it made it easier to take action and love myself the way I knew, deep down, I deserved to be loved.
With each change I made, external circumstances were showing up differently that were more to my liking; people were more respectful of my time, I received more help around the house without asking, I attracted jobs in my career that were with wonderful people. It seemed the more I loved and respected myself, the more I got back in support of this. And over 10 years later, the love is still pouring in.
So with that said, I invite you to give some thought to the things you do or don't do in your life that may represent you not loving yourself. Here's some possibilities to get you started:
1. Not paying bills on time.
2. Living in a cluttered environment.
3. Constantly putting others before yourself.
4. Not exercising.
5. Living with debt.
If there's one thing I'm absolutely sure of, it's this: When we are unable to genuinely love ourselves it's impossible to give and receive love in its most authentic form.
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