Happy New Year!
I always find the beginning of a new year interesting because of all the talk around creating personal change. However, for many people, there's no real commitment to follow through with creating their change.
You can make all the promises you want to yourself, and others, but unless you're really ready to make the changes, it's not going to happen. Circumstances and people don't change just because the calendar year does. Change takes work and it's not always easy. But when you get to the other side, boy is it worth it!
If your intention is to have a life you love in 2008 then you must first be honest with yourself and take the time to answer some questions:
1. Do you really want certain areas of your life to be better?
2. Are you willing to do what it takes to make them better?
3. If you are, what will that require?
4. What pain might you experience with this change?
5. Are you willing to feel the pain and still move forward?
6. What can you do to support yourself along the way so you create the change you want?
7. How will your life be better with this change? (Go beyond, "I'll be happy, relaxed, peaceful." Dig deep)
8. How will this change benefit others?
9. Who might feel hurt by this change?
10. Are you willing to move forward if it's for the highest good of all concerned even if some people do feel hurt?
When you dive into these questions honestly, you may experience some resistance. This is normal because real change can be scary. All sorts of excuses start showing up as to why you shouldn't change. Letting go of old, familiar ways can be extremely uncomfortable and your Gremlin will fight you to the end to keep things status quo.
I promise you this...when the old, familiar ways becomes more uncomfortable and painful than the idea of making changes in your life, you're on your way!
I invite you to not create a New Year's resolution and embrace what's better for you for the rest of your life, not just for a month or two. Think about the questions above and then write down your answers so you can see in black and white what you need to do to make the necessary changes that will serve the highest good of all concerned. And then take the most important step of all, action.
I wish you a magnificent 2008 and beyond!