My husband approached me about something I did today. No need to bore you with the details, but let's just say, consequences came into play that affected him.
What I want to share with you was the way he expressed his concern with me - considerateness, calm and above all else, love. He gently explained why what I did was a problem and I apologized, sheepishly, knowing he was right. And if I'm going to be completely honest here - it was a really stupid decision on my part.
When he left the room I thought to myself, "I need to tell him how much I appreciate the way he spoke to me about the situation." A few minutes later I went into the kitchen where he was. Turns out he spoke right up when he saw me and said, "I'm sorry." Now I was really baffled! "About what?" I asked. "I'm sorry if I was a little hard on you about what you did?"
I laughed a bit and said, "I came in here to tell you how great you were about the whole thing and how much I appreciate you for that!"
We hugged, expressed our love and went back to our individual work. It hasn't always been this way for us. We've worked hard to get here and I'm telling you it's worth it - 27 years worth it!
When love leads, humans treat each other the way we were meant to treat each other - with compassion, patience and understanding. Each person wants to take responsibility for their behavior and the ego has dissolved in that moment - giving us the gift to be witness to what life is supposed to feel like - full of love and peace.
We experience peace when we stop fighting - not by winning the battle.
Make it a priority in your life to lead with love as often as possible. If you forget from time to time, that's okay. You can always do it the next time, and I promise you, you will be enriching your life and others in miraculous ways.