With Decision Comes Peace

A client who I recently completed working with sent me an email that had so much wisdom in it that I asked if I could share part of it with you - anonymously. I am fiercely protective of my clients privacy especially when they share personal things that involve others in their life.

Nothing brings me greater joy than to see people I've had the privilege of coaching, apply into their life, what they learned and reap the benefits.  She is living proof of this!

I chose to bold certain areas that offer great reminders for all of us.

Here is what she wrote to me:

Hi Linda,
I think of you often, especially on the difficult days. Helps me get perspective again.
Today it's tough to be "mom" and communicate clearly about rules, expectations, choices. Lots of protest coming back. I hold onto the good. I keep my calm. I know her storm will pass and she will be  better off having had a mom right now, not a friend.

I remind myself that I deserve to have my own needs play a role in our family, that I am not a servant.

I remind myself of how far we have come, that my husband and I are on the same page now, stronger now, that this is all good, for ALL of us. I get through the moment.
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And the following paragraph she wrote is a perfect example of how we can still be at peace even when certain situations in our life aren't exactly as we would like them to be. Consider the whole piece bolded:

I am continually surprised. Since separating more from my sister, I am not struggling to find balance, but more easily finding it. I am not fighting impulses to emotionally hurt myself, but following my internal voices, honoring them, even when that means that my desired world (the one in which my sister and I can be easily close) is not in evidence. I am not struggling with the reality of my world, but respecting the deep internal voice I hear. I am not "taking the blame" because I am not judging my experience, nor hers, but  acknowledging that we are in different places, sometimes incompatibly uncomfortable....  and it becomes more okay as I fulfill my own life/world.
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If you are struggling with anyone or any situation in your life, please reread this and know that you have the inner strength to do exactly what she has decided to do for herself. Because the bottom line? It is just that - a decision.

Comments

[Linda]

Yes, Sandy, life does become so much more simple and easy when we can truly let go instead of fighting what our Gremlin minds insists upon.
And, letting go allows room for something even greater to show up!
Thank you for your comment.

[Sandy]

What a perfectly beautiful gift your client and friend has given to you, Linda. Thank you for sharing the wisdom she gained from working with you. And it's so true - we tend to assume that if we don't like something, it must be "wrong" and we often expend energy trying to make it "right." In reality, if we let go of it as not something we need in our life, our life becomes so much simpler and easier.