Last weekend my husband and I were at small dinner party. The subject of meditation came up and one of the guests was saying how frustrating he finds meditation.
"Every time I meditate my mind just goes bonkers. It won't stop. No matter how long I sit there. It drives me nuts but I really do want to be able enjoy the practice of it."
The hostess of the party suggested a breathing technique that works well for her. He said, "Yeah, I've tried that, too, and it doesn't work for me. The mind just goes and goes and goes."
I then suggested a technique I recently learned that has worked beautifully for me. When the hostess heard this she said, "Oooh, I like the sounds of that. I'm going to try that as well."
Then our frustrated meditator chimed in and said, "Well, I don't think that'll work for me. My mind is obviously too busy to get to a place of quieting down. It seems nothing works for me."
At that point I wasn't willing to convince him otherwise because he appeared more attached to it not working for him then the possibility of having another experience.
Do you ever find yourself doing this? Claiming that you really want to master something or make a change but whatever suggestions are thrown at you, you find a reason why it won't work. This can happen at such an unconscious level - totally unaware of what you're doing to yourself. It's your Gremlin's greatest tactic. IT is a master at keeping you right where you are even when you believe you want a situation to be different.
If this sounds familiar then take note and the next time you find yourself running this scenario tell your Gremlin to take a hike and then do your best to keep readjusting until you find what works and allows for a better experience.
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