My husband did a great job reframing my frustration about our dog's hair which is everywhere no matter how much we try to keep up with it. When I commented that it drives me crazy sometimes he immediately said (while cuddling her and smiling from ear to ear), "Yeah, but her dog hair means that she's in our life and I don't have to tell you how much joy she brings us.
Wow! Talk about shifting my thinking in a heartbeat. Now I'm truly grateful for her hair!
So with that in mind I'm going to share some recent reframes that I shared with a friend and a client.
Client: "I'm so sick and tired of my husband leaving his clothes on the chair at the end of the night and not placing them in the hamper. No matter how many times I beg him he still doesn't listen."
My reframe: "Next time you look at those clothes consider them a reminder that he's still in your life. Then go ahead and take the two seconds it takes to throw them in the hamper."
The clothes haven't bothered her since.
Friend: I'm really starting to hate my hands. I can't believe how wrinkly they're becoming. And my fingertips are getting lines that I never had before. It makes me feel so old."
My reframe: "Those hands allow you to express yourself through your art and make money. Those wrinkles are a great indication you've used your hands well and that you're reaching a time in your life where your wisdom from all your life experience makes your art even better."
She now teasingly shows me her newest and greatest wrinkle - even when there really isn't one!
So what can you reframe in your life? I'd love to hear any reframes you come up with for yourself.